The Story of Me

My name is Rincy Lhazin Tamang, and I am currently 13 years old, born on 29th November, 2011. I have passed all my grades smoothly and now studying in grade 8, section 'F'. I am from Khencholing, Shompongkha, Sarpang. When it comes to family, my parents are divorced and I am the oldest and the first child, which means all the expectations and responsibilities fall on me. 

It can sometimes be not only hard but also tiring to keep up with all the high expectations, but I always try the best I can to maintain the reputation I have created so far along with making my parents proud. As the so called, academic achiever of my family, I genuinely want to study and work hard on my career which typically includes studying STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering and Mathematics) or MBA (Master of Business Administration), on top of that I have always wanted to become a doctor throughout my lifetime and recently got into studying architecture in the future too. I personally love to engage myself with studies and reading or even drawing when there isn't anyone around to accompany me.

As a person, I can be incredibly boring or just annoyingly talkative and I would say that it depends on the opposing persons vibe, because I like to give out the same energy to either understand someone or to be close and good friends with them. Till now, I have changed drastically to reach most people's likings or qualities they want in a person, and I am fine with that because deep inside I still have my true and childish part of myself which I only show to few people whom I feel at ease and comfortable with, most especially my own mother. I am someone who will close doors shut on people's faces who judge me and try to pull me lower as I like and want to keep my self-esteem high as possible, but at the same time, I can be a very approachable and trustworthy of a person. 

When it comes to hobbies and my likings, it would be sketching because it enhances creativity and also express our own individuals' untold feelings or just the emotions you would be recently experiencing. To add on, I would say that listening to music has always been the most comforting thing to me on any high or low days either when going for a walk, drive or just gazing into the admirable skies with calm moving clouds and the sunset over the tall trees or horizons. Now, I think you should get some clues about the way talked about the skies- well, I really enjoy taking pictures and capturing the beauty of nature but mostly the sky since I find it so mesmerizing and aesthetic.

Some of my sketches:

Sky pictures: 

If I had to talk about my experiences and the values, I have learnt so far, the number one and foremost thing would be that people will judge you from every corner but most importantly, that is just because of their own insecurities or jealousy, and for me- I do have a story of my own, and to be honest I am and always was judged throughout my whole life, till this day- whoever it was or where ever it was, starting from, schools, homes, neighborhood's, or even just relatives, but in the end, I couldn't and would never care about what people will do or think of me because at the end of the day its yourself! All individuals know themselves better than anyone else ever will so, who are they to judge. Also, I have realized that the feeling of being left out was never a thing to overthink about so much, it's most probably that we haven't been around the right circle of people yet.

I have always loved animals as a child but mostly cats. I used to have a pet cat named Opera when I used to live at Paro, and she was very gentle and well-disciplined by my mother. She was like a comfort person to me and completed a missing part of me that I always needed, but unfortunately, I had to come back to Samtse as my mother went abroad for her master's, so I had no choice but to leave my cat with my aunty from my mother's side. I am not allowed to have any pets here because we live in a Building so, it will be a bit uncomfortable.

My cat has baby kittens now and seems to be healthy and happier than ever. I am hoping to see her sooner or later during my summer break after my mid-term exams. Also, in the future, I want to have a lot of pets once I am all settled with my own life. I am both cats and a dog person so I would pet any street animals I see, as long as they are friendly too! Since I take pictures of anything up to my likings, my gallery is filled with animal pictures as well and here are some of it:

My life has never really been settled in just one place for an overwhelmingly long period of time. Unlike others, who had lived in a place for a decade or more, I have been moving from one place to another. To begin with, I was born at the Mongar Hospital and lived there for four years or so, then stayed at Paro for almost five years and that's the longest me and my family had stayed in a place before, after that comes Thimphu where we lived for two years and my father got transferred here, at Samtse, as the Bank manager of BNB (Bhutan National Bank).

That time during class four, we stayed here for exactly a year but during class five, my parents decided to go separate ways and file a divorce, so we went on, yet again back to Paro with my mother. My old friends were still there so it was thrilling until my mother got her visa to go to Australia, so that is when I had to come back to Samtse and live with my dad which I was pretty much fine with as I had some friends here at Samtse as well. 

Now, I have no clue where life will take me to next, but it's quite fun to travel around and make friends plus meet them again! Our human or even animal lives can and will always be unpredictable, so we never know what's next, weather it goes as planned or not, but whatever it is, these are the things that teach us life lessons, values and built experiences so that we can face all the challenges that life throws on each individuals- like the saying goes, "When life gives you lemons, make lemonade." and with that, my blog ends here.

About Me

About Me

My name is Rincy Lhazin Tamang. My date of birth is on 29th November, 2011. I have a little brother who is in ECCD. My father's name is Shyam Kumar Tamang and my mother's name is Sangay Pema. Since, My parents are divorced, I also have a step mother and a little step sister whose names are, Abena Rai and Tiyara Saanvi Limbu.

For me, I personally find peace in reading, writing, listening to music, studying and drawing. My career is in Astrology. I like to study about the space during night time and do journaling. As I am the oldest daughter in the family, everyone mostly has higher expectations for me so I mostly study during my free times. I am a very curious person who likes to explore and know about everything. My dream is to travel around the world someday after I grow old and go on with my life.

Lost Souls

They wander where the silence grows,

Beneath the moon’s eternal pose,

In alleyways of shattered light,

Between the folds of night.

Eyes that once held glow and flame

Now can't blink without a sense of name,

Their voices swallowed by the mist,

As though they never did exist.

They haunt the edges of ones dream,

Where nothing's ever what it seems,

A whisper here, a shadow there,

A memory stripped cold and bare.

No purpose holds them to the earth,

No laughter attached to joy nor birth.

They float on winds that never sleep,

Their sorrow buried dark and deep.

But still they yearn, a silent plea,

For someone just to let them be

To speak their name, to light a flame,

To call them home, or just be the same.

So if you feel a chill one night,

A flicker just beyond your sight

It might not be the wind that blows,

But footsteps of the lost in solemn.

Remember them, though time has passed

For every souls deserve to last

And in your heart, if you make room,

You might just free them from their gloom.

The Academic Achiever

In halls of light where silence hums,

Among the books, the learner comes.

With eyes like stars, burning bright,

She walks the edge of day and night.

While others sleep or seek their rest,

She chases dreams through every test.

A mind in motion, never still,

Filled with purpose, shaped by will.

Not for the praise or fleeting fame,

Nor medals carved with her own name,

But for the love of learning's flame

A fire no failure dares to tame.

Her world is built of notes and pens,

Of questions asked again, again.

Each answer found, a step ahead,

Each hour where new strength is bred.

She knows the weight of being best,

The quiet anxiety behind each test.

Yet bears it all with steady grace,

Determined eyes and thoughtful pace.

When doubt comes knocking late at night,

She meets it with a stubborn light.

For though the climb is steep and long,

She walks it sure, with purpose strong.

And in the end, she doesn’t seek

A crown upon the scholar’s peak

But hopes her mind, once found in strife,

Will shape a better, wiser life.

Procrastination (essay)

Procrastination is the habit of delaying tasks or responsibilities, often choosing to do something easier or more enjoyable instead. Many people struggle with procrastination, whether it is putting off homework, delaying chores, or avoiding important decisions. While it may seem harmless at first, procrastination can lead to stress, poor performance, and missed opportunities. Understanding why people procrastinate and how to overcome it can help improve productivity and mental well-being.

Now, there are many reasons why people procrastinate. Sometimes, tasks feel too difficult or overwhelming, so people avoid them instead of facing them. For example, a student might delay studying for a test because they feel unprepared and anxious. Other times, people procrastinate because they lack motivation or interest in the task. If something seems boring, they may choose to do something more enjoyable, like watching TV or playing games.

Fear of failure is another common reason for procrastination. When people worry that they will not do well, they may avoid starting the task altogether. They might think, "If I don’t try, I can’t fail" but this only makes things worse in the long run. Instead of improving their skills or learning from mistakes, they end up feeling overwhelmed and stressed.

Procrastination can cause many problems in daily life. One major issue is increase in stress. When people delay important tasks, they often have to rush to complete them at the last minute. This can lead to anxiety, poor quality of work, and exhaustion. For example, a student who waits until the night before an exam to study may feel overwhelmed and struggle to remember important information.

Another problem with procrastination is missed opportunities. When people put off tasks, they may lose chances to improve, succeed, or enjoy new experiences. For instance, someone who delays applying for a job might miss out on a great opportunity. Over time, procrastination can lead to regret and frustration, making it harder to achieve goals.

Although procrastination is a common habit, there are ways to overcome it. One helpful strategy is breaking tasks into smaller steps. Instead of thinking about a big project as one huge task, people can divide it into smaller, manageable parts. This makes the work feel less overwhelming and easier to start.

Setting deadlines and creating a schedule can also help. When people plan their time wisely, they are less likely to delay tasks. Using tools like to-do lists or timers can keep them focused and motivated. Another useful method is the "five-minute rule" where a person commits to working on a task for just five minutes. Often, once they start, they find it easier to continue.

Reducing distractions is another important step. Many people procrastinate because they get distracted by social media, TV, or other activities. Creating a quiet workspace and setting limits on distractions can make it easier to concentrate.

Finally, practicing self-discipline and positive thinking can help people stay motivated. Instead of saying, "I’ll do it later" they can remind themselves of the benefits of finishing tasks on time. Rewarding oneself after completing a task can also make work feel more enjoyable.

In conclusion, procrastination is a common habit that can lead to stress, poor performance, and missed opportunities. People often procrastinate because they feel overwhelmed, lack motivation, or fear failure. However, by breaking tasks into smaller steps, setting deadlines, reducing distractions, and staying positive, it is possible to overcome procrastination and improve productivity. Instead of delaying tasks and feeling guilty later, taking small steps toward completing work can lead to success and a more balanced life.

Comparison (essay)

People often compare themselves to others. It is natural to look at someone else’s life, achievements, or appearance and wonder how we aren't as good enough. Sometimes, comparison can be helpful, pushing us to improve and work harder. However, when it becomes too frequent or negative, it can harm our mental health. Comparing ourselves to others can lead to feelings of low self-worth, anxiety, and sadness. In today’s world especially with social media, comparison has become even more common, making it important to understand its effects and how to manage it.

When people compare themselves to others, they often focus on what they lack rather than what they have. For example, a student might feel discouraged if they see a classmate getting better grades, thinking they are not smart enough. Someone might feel insecure about their appearance after seeing pictures of models online. These thoughts can lead to low self-esteem, making people feel like they are not good enough. Over time, this can cause stress, anxiety, and even depression.

Another problem with comparison is that it can make people feel like they are failing, even when they are doing well. Some people experience imposter syndrome, where they believe they are not as talented or successful as others think they are. Even if they achieve something great, they may feel like they do not deserve it because they are comparing themselves to someone who seems even better. This can make it hard to enjoy personal achievements and feel confident.

Social media has made comparison much worse. People often post only the best parts of their lives such as perfect vacations, happy relationships, or great achievements. When others see these posts, they may feel like their own lives are boring or unsuccessful in comparison. However, what people see online is not always real. Many photos can be edited, and people do not share their struggles or bad days. This creates unrealistic expectations, making people feel pressured to be perfect, although "perfection" doesn't even exist.

Spending too much time on social media can make comparison a daily habit. Instead of focusing on their own lives, people may constantly check what others are doing, leading to feelings of jealousy or sadness. This can make it hard to appreciate personal growth and happiness.

To avoid the harmful effects of comparison, it is important to focus on personal progress rather than measuring success against others. One way to do this is by practicing gratitude such as thinking about the good things in life instead of what is missing. For example, instead of feeling bad about not having the latest phone, a person can appreciate the things they do have, like supportive friends or a loving family.

Limiting time on social media can also help. Taking breaks from scrolling through posts can reduce the pressure to compare and allow people to focus on their own goals. It is also helpful to remember that everyone has a different journey. Success comes at different times for different people, and just because someone else is ahead now does not mean they always will be. Being kind to oneself is important. Instead of thinking, "I am not good enough" people should remind themselves of their strengths and achievements. Everyone has challenges, and no one is perfect. Learning to accept oneself can lead to a happier and healthier mindset.

In conclusion, comparison is a natural part of life, but too much of it can harm mental health. It can lead to low self-esteem, anxiety, and feelings of failure. Social media makes comparison even worse by showing unrealistic versions of people’s lives. However, by focusing on personal growth, practicing gratitude, and limiting social media use, people can reduce negative comparison and feel more confident in themselves. Instead of looking at others and feeling discouraged, it is better to appreciate one’s own journey and progress.